With little personal time in the modern world, many couples find they are exhausted at the end of each day. The life they planned together may not seem so rosy all of a sudden. Rather than feeling refreshed when they are together after work, their lives could be a series of arguments about responsibilities or things that never got done. This is not a good way to conduct a successful relationship, and it can lead to a split. Discussing the issues should be their goal, but their collective fatigue and frustration can turn even the smallest item to be spoken about into a massive fight between them.
It is often said that children scream about things but adults discuss. It sounds like a great formula for a good relationship, yet the truth of modern life can take away that rational part of any person. Devolving into a screaming match on a regular basis often seems to take less energy than rationally working toward a solution. Blaming each other for what does not get done feels emotionally good when people are tired, and it is certainly easier than hunting for logical solutions.
Couples often find there is a point in their relationship where the constant battle of words has trapped them in a destructive cycle. Getting out of it could be as easy as having a few days off to get some good rest before discussion can take place. Others may be further down the destructive path, and they may no longer even recognize the issues they face.
A professional counsellor could be helpful, but many times couples just need a break in their routine. If they can begin to find solutions together, the peace of mind and ease of life they are experiencing may just solve many of the issues they have. Being able to have a rational discussion together could set them back on the path to a successful relationship.